For many, the idea of an active and fulfilling sex life in your seventies might seem far-fetched, but one couple is proving that age is no barrier to passion. Valerie and Max, both 73, have been together for nearly 50 years and report that their intimacy is not only ongoing but has reached new heights of pleasure and connection.
The Evolution of Intimacy Over Five Decades
Valerie and Max first met in 1975, and from the start, they recognised that physical intimacy was a cornerstone of their relationship. While the romantic candlelit encounters of their youth have evolved, their commitment to maintaining a sexual connection has never wavered, even as many of their peers have stepped back from intimacy entirely.
"We realised then that sex was a big part of our lives," Valerie explains, a principle that has guided them through life's changes, including surgeries, illnesses, and raising children. During times when intercourse wasn't possible, such as after Max's knee operation, they prioritised closeness through cuddling and kissing, ensuring the intimate bond remained strong.
Adapting and Thriving in Your Seventies
The couple, now in their seventies, have consciously adapted their physical relationship to suit their changing bodies. About two decades ago, they moved from traditional intercourse to what they fondly term "outercourse," primarily focusing on oral sex. This shift came as Max experienced difficulties maintaining an erection, a common issue for men over 50.
Surprisingly, both agree this new phase is superior to the intercourse of their youth. "There's a slowness to it, a lot of touching, a lot of intimacy," says Max. They schedule time for intimacy, typically on a Saturday date night, and emphasise prolonged foreplay, kissing, and snuggling to build connection.
The Surprising Benefits of Ageing Together
Far from seeing ageing as a detriment, Valerie reports a significant positive impact on her sexual pleasure. She has become more orgasmic than ever, now capable of experiencing up to five orgasms in a single session. "I read about multiple orgasms before and I never quite believed it, but I guess it exists – even at 70," she reveals.
For Max, the secret to their enduring sex life is a simple but profound philosophy: making his partner's pleasure the ultimate goal. "If you really want to have good sex, make it so that your partner's orgasm is the most important part," he advises.
They acknowledge that their weekly intimacy might differ from the frequency of their youth, but they consider it "pretty good for 73." Both stress that using lubrication and being open to adaptation are key to sustaining a sex life well into older age.
Ultimately, their story is one of enduring love and deliberate effort. "We still know we are madly, crazy in love and that is critical to our sex life," Max states. They believe great sex and a great marriage fuel each other, a cycle they hope continues for many years to come. Valerie poignantly adds, "I just don't want sex to end... I hope it won't be for a long time."
