Reverse Cowgirl: The Controversial Sex Position Dividing Genders
A recent discussion on social media has highlighted a significant gender divide in sexual preferences, with the reverse cowgirl position emerging as a particularly contentious topic. While many men describe this position as "sexy as hell," women are speaking out about why it's often their least favorite way to have sex.
Women's Widespread Discomfort with Reverse Cowgirl
Hundreds of women on Reddit have expressed strong negative feelings about reverse cowgirl, with many describing it as uncomfortable, awkward, and unpleasurable. "The angle doesn't do anything for me and staring at my partner's legs and feet isn't my favourite view," explained one woman in the thread. Another shared: "I really dislike reverse cowgirl. It's like getting poked in the wrong direction. Super uncomfortable and the view isn't great."
The discussion revealed multiple reasons for this widespread dislike. Many women mentioned physical discomfort, with one participant noting: "I hate this one. It's so uncomfortable... plus staring at feet, plus feeling awkward about my a**hole pointed at him." Others described experiencing uncomfortable pressure in their vagina and pelvis during the position.
Beyond physical concerns, women highlighted emotional and psychological factors. "Not knowing if you should hold their shins, ankles, or the bed," one woman laughed, pointing to the awkwardness many feel about what to do with their hands during reverse cowgirl.
The Professional Perspective on Position Preferences
Cate Campbell, a BACP accredited sex therapist and co-host of The Real Sex Education podcast, explains that these reactions aren't surprising from a professional standpoint. "Some women find this position a complete turn off because it makes them feel self-conscious, especially as they usually have no eye contact with their partner," she notes.
Campbell elaborates on the emotional dimensions: "Having their back to their partner is a major issue for some who may say they feel a bit used, particularly when they don't experience much pleasure from the position." She also mentions that some women are concerned about potential injuries to men that can occur in this position, particularly when women lean forward to steady themselves.
Despite the widespread criticism, Campbell acknowledges that reverse cowgirl does have its proponents. "Some women find it rather pleasurable," she explains, noting that increased contact with the G-spot and the ability to control depth and speed can enhance the experience for some. However, she adds that "it does require a lot of stamina, which can distract from pleasure and become a bit exhausting."
Other Unpopular Positions and What Women Prefer
The discussion revealed that reverse cowgirl isn't the only position facing criticism from women. Doggy style and the 69 position also received negative feedback for similar reasons. "I feel so distant from my partner during it, it feels like we're having sex separately," one Redditor said about doggy style. "I don't feel much pleasure from it, I'm just there and have to go exorcist to at least see his facial expressions."
Another participant added about doggy style: "Not being able to look at and make out with your partner and generally having sex while staring at the bed or wall is just not that interesting."
These comments highlight a consistent theme: women generally prefer positions that allow for eye contact and emotional connection. According to data from Lloyds Online Doctor, missionary remains the most popular sex position for both women and men, with 736,900 Google searches recorded last year—more than any other position.
The platform's survey data provides insight into why missionary maintains its popularity: 58% of respondents said comfort was a major factor influencing their choice of sex position, while intimacy played a role for 48% of participants.
The Broader Conversation About Sexual Preferences
This discussion about reverse cowgirl reflects larger conversations happening around sexual preferences, communication, and mutual satisfaction in intimate relationships. The Reddit thread that sparked this conversation included 430 women who agreed with the negative sentiment about reverse cowgirl, cementing its status as one of the most disliked sex positions among women.
Sex therapists emphasize that open communication between partners is crucial for sexual satisfaction. "Ultimately, it's whatever gets you off under the sheets—not what suits everyone else," Campbell notes, highlighting the importance of individual preferences and mutual understanding in sexual relationships.
The conversation serves as a reminder that sexual preferences vary widely between individuals and that what works for one couple might not work for another. As with all aspects of intimate relationships, communication, consent, and mutual pleasure should remain the primary focus.
