When OnlyFans star Lily Phillips slept with 101 men in a single day, the resounding sentiment from many was: ‘Good luck finding a boyfriend or husband.’ But 18 months later, the 24-year-old has proved the internet wrong. Lily says she is now in a monogamous relationship (not including her sex work) with her boyfriend Sammy, whom she met in Australia.
‘It is my “I told you so moment”,’ Lily tells Metro. ‘All the comments start to eat away at you and you have weak moments where you are like “gosh, am I going to be alone forever?” And I was actually pretty content to be alone and independent. I was not looking for anything at all, but I am so in love.’
The sex worker initially met Sammy, 27, through her friend and fellow sex worker, Annie Knight, who has been dubbed ‘Australia’s most sexually active woman’. The pair have been filming a reality TV show called ‘Turned On: Dirty Sexy Money’, which follows the lives of 10 sex workers as they navigate the industry.
‘Sammy was staying at Annie’s because he is friends with her fiancé, so I got introduced to him,’ Lily explains. ‘I was like, “Annie, why have you not told me there is a hot boy staying at your house? Like, what the hell? He is hot, he is single.” I definitely fancied him straight away. He is really good looking.’
She adds they got on ‘like a house on fire’ from the beginning, which was just over two months ago, and they have been staying in the same house together ever since. ‘He is the most understanding, caring, thoughtful person ever – he is more on the sensitive side,’ Lily adds. ‘I am not someone who would go for toxic masculinity because I do not think we would gel well with my job anyway.’
They had their first date at a restaurant called Siblings on the Gold Coast, and Lily’s occupation has not been an issue in their relationship at all. ‘He knew Annie before he knew me, so he understands the adult industry,’ Lily explains. ‘He just cares if I am safe and happy.’
Sammy has asked Lily to set one boundary as she continues her sex work: no kissing other men. ‘I do not mind,’ she says. ‘I am the type of person who finds kissing quite intimate, so I am happy to save that for my relationship. Otherwise it is just my job – I go to work and then I come home to him.’
Sammy is so comfortable with her profession that, after she returned from a gangbang, he left her a box of chocolates on her bed with a card that read: ‘I am so proud of you for working so hard.’ Lily now requires everyone to have a full clean STD panel before having sex – a comprehensive screening for HIV, syphilis, hepatitis B and C, chlamydia, and gonorrhoea – to keep both her and her partner safe.
Things have gone so well that Sammy is following Lily back to England at the start of May and plans to live with her, although Lily specifies he ‘has his own money’. There will be naysayers who condemn the relationship as nothing more than a reality TV stunt, but Lily insists she has introduced Sammy to her very private parents on FaceTime, and they will meet in person in the next two weeks.
‘We just love each other as human beings and not because of my job – that is not a big deal,’ she explains. ‘It is so nice and validating that someone does love me and I was put on this planet for a reason. I used to be so monetary and cared so much about the stupidest things, now I just feel grateful for everything in my life.’
Finding Sammy has left Lily in a much more positive place, and she now feels ‘validated’ knowing that those who said she would never get a boyfriend were wrong. ‘My dad always said there is always a Jill for a Jack, you will find your person no matter what,’ she says, smiling. ‘It is mind-boggling though. I am still kind of coming to terms with it.’
